Let me tell you about a (BBM) chat that I had with The Boyfriend lately. I messaged him with what was about to be every guy's worst nightmare:
"I feel gross"
He responded wanting to know why.
I wrote "I feel large"
Guy response #1 "Dumbass"
I thanked him most sincerely (and by sincerely I mean I raised an emoticon eyebrow at him)
"You're silly if you ask me" he wrote.
Me "I'm not. I've gained"
Guy response # 2 "So? Look good to me"
I gasped and almost did that thing some of us girls do (you know, THAT thing) and fained insult that he was in fact acknowledging my weight gain. Instead, I took the moral high ground and wrote:
"I don't like it". If BBM had a pitiful pouty face emoticon you better believe I would have used it.
His most matter-of-fact response? "You'll change it"
What the what?? Where was my pity party? I was having a woe-is-me moment and he wasn't jumping on the bandwagon? How was I supposed to continue sulking under these conditions??
I didn't know, but I sure tried. "Ughhhhhh! I feel like a blob!"
Good guy response #3 "Sam, you're as beautiful know as when we got together"
Not falling for it! You won't change my bad attitude that easily mister "But I'm mad that I let this happen"
"So use that anger and kick some ass"
I could have thrown my Blackberry across the office. How, oh friggin' how could be make this so simple? I mean, what was I supposed to do, actually do something about what was bothering me??
Oh wait.....that's actually what I was supposed to do. Duh!
And that my friends is how a little dose of Male Mentality (aka Stop Your Whining and Fix Your Problem!) made me realize that all these years when I was bitching about the fact that I had gained weight/been lazy/couldn't run I'd wasted much too much time that I could have used actually improving my life. Who knew!!
Here I go, off to do something with myself instead of just sitting here talking about it! Have a great night everyone!
So tell me, has a member of the opposite sex ever given it to you straight and changed the way you think??
*Disclaimer: My weight gain is a few pounds. I in no way believe that this makes me "large" nor is this meant as a judgement of anyone else. I plan to address the weight gain by being more consistent with my healthy eating habits and active lifestyle. If I have offended you in anyway I sincerely apologize as that was not the message or the intention of this post.